Boston High School is dedicated to ensuring our students have a confidential counselling service which can be accessed throughout the school year. The school offers support to students, through referral to our in-house counsellor who is trained and works in the school for two days a week to offer extra support to students. There are two drop-in sessions at lunchtime which pupils can acces. Once a drop-in session has been attended, our counsellor will decide on the course/session required.
Some of the most common reasons for drop-ins are:
Peer Relationship difficulties
Frequently Asked Questions for Students
Is it confidential?
Yes – with an important exception. What you have talked about in the session will not be repeated unless you give your permission. However if it is thought that you are in danger in some way e.g. someone is harming you or what you are doing is harming yourself or other people then the team member has a duty to share this information with others. You will always be spoken to first so that you know what is going to happen. Of course you are always free to talk about your session to anyone if you want.
Can I get an appointment if I am receiving support outside of school?
If you are already receiving support outside of school e.g. GP or CAMHS or Healthy Minds it would not normally be the case for the school counsellor to work with you, the reason being that it prevents there being any conflict and crossover of information which can cause confusion on the part of the pupil.
Do I need my parent/carers' permission to come?
Each case is different and you can talk about this with your Head of Key Stage.
Will my parent/carer or teachers talk to the person I see?
Sometimes parents and teachers may want to share their points of view about a situation. However the person you see will always respect your confidentiality and will not reveal any details of your sessions together.
What happens in the session?
The person you see will normally begin the session by getting to know you better; finding out the sorts of things you are interested in and the things you enjoy doing. He or she will ask you about the changes and differences you want to make in your life. The service is not about giving you advice or telling you what to do, but it is about helping you to find your own strengths and abilities which will enable you to reach your goals, whatever they may be.
How long are the sessions and where will they be?
The length of the sessions depends to some degree on what your individual worry or concern is and will take place in a room in school.
How long will I need to come for and how often?
This will depend on you. Some students feel that one or two sessions are enough to begin to make changes, whilst others will have many. Some come weekly, others once a fortnight. You can discuss what you need with the person you see. You will know when you are ready to stop because you will have reached the goals you set for yourself.
Remember that it is always your choice.
No one can force you to attend and if you decide that it is not useful to you then your decision will be respected.
If you feel school counselling is not the right route for you, but you still wish for help you should see your GP. They can refer you to other services which the school cannot.
Also, there are several support agences which are free and confidential:-
- Relate (relationship advice) - 0300 0032164 - www.relate.org.uk
- Add-action (drugs) - 0800 3047021 - www.addaction.org.uk
- Lincoln Centre for Grief and Loss - 01522 546168 - www.lcgl.org.uk
- Kooth - www.kooth.com
- Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) for males - 0800 585858 - www.thecalmzone.net
- MIND (mental health charity) - 0300 1233393 - www.mind.org.uk